Anger

Sometimes we as Christians feel that it is wrong to feel anger, we somehow feel it's unspiritual. Well we will never be "anger free" so then what do we do? Our goal should be to learn how to control our response to present anger: both the emotional and biological arousals that anger may cause.

Here are some action steps:

See It

Focus on the source of the anger. List the triggers. Until you can control the anger, avoid the triggers as much as possible.

Learn to identify anger before it is out of control.

Identify angry feelings while they are still minor. State out loud, “I’m feeling angry right now.”

Be aware of the first warning signs of anger, which may be physical changes. Anger promotes a sympathetic nervous system response (a physical state of readiness) and the following biological changes: rising heart rate and blood pressure, amplified alertness, tensed muscles, dilated pupils, digestion clenched fists, flared nostrils, bulged veins.

Step number two is to:

Delay It

Take a “time out”; temporarily disengage from the situation if possible (20-minute minimum).

Perform light exercise until the intensity of anger is manageable.
“Write, don’t fight”; jot down troubling thoughts. This exercise is personal and writings should be kept private, possibly destroyed, not sent.

Talk with a trusted friend who is unrelated to the anger-provoking situation: Don’t just vent—ask for constructive advice.

Pray about the anger, asking God to show you insight.

Read proverbs 16:32, "It is better to be patient than powerful; it is better to have self-control than to conquer a city". And Proverbs 29:11, A fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise person quietly holds it back. -Proverbs 29:11.

Hope these tips help, I'll be posting more of them soon.

Source: AACC